When marriage equality became national, I honestly didn’t know how to feel about it. As a person who considers themselves respectful enough to acknowledge multiple belief systems (spiritual and non), I was left feeling as if mainstream religion had been personally attacked by this Supreme Court ruling. My upbringing led me to believe that matrimony was a love sparked union given ritualistic ceremony solely for god’s acknowledgement and government granted benefits.

Because of this longstanding personal belief, I didn’t favor marriage equality. Instead, I promoted the abolition of matrimony altogether, with a phonetic downgrade to civil union’s which would provide ALL Americans the deserved equal benefits marriage formerly did, including the option for God-followers to acknowledge their particular union as a religious “marriage.” While I still favor political methods that keep all sides satiated while simultaneously maintaining a separation of church and state, I did some research on the history of matrimony itself and my feelings quickly subsided.

Using interpretable religious beliefs to argue that a same-sex union goes against the sanctity of marriage is ludicrous once you research the actual origin and past of matrimony. Marriage has existed since even before recorded history and was originally equated to that of a business transaction in the sense that it had nothing to do with love or religion and everything to do with the advancement of one’s kingdom, bloodline and family income/status. Until the 5th century when the church took it upon itself to deem matrimony a “holy union,” there was ZERO spirituality connected with tying the knot. The church changed the rules, God himself did not.

To be perfectly honest, I (like a lot of modern day conservatives) kind of wish marriage wouldn’t have progressed. Aside from the fact that I would’ve likely been forced into marrying a stranger (for familial gain) or even my cousin, I could’ve at least had multiple spouses (because polygamy was common back then) and wouldn’t have to remain monogamous. That sounds kind of awesome and was still how matrimony maintained until the 9th century, even after the church had already hijacked it. What I’m getting at is that marriage has never been about two people uniting under the guise of religious conviction. It is simply misconstrued that way.

America has been pushing equal rights since the ’20s and marriage equality – which adequately provides ALL U.S. citizens the same legal right to civil matrimony – was a natural step in its advancement. Religious extremist’s (I use the term “extremist’s” because a true Christian most likely wouldn’t lose sleep over marriage equality) can choose to let fairness breed negativity, but they’re honestly just wasting their own time and everyone else’s. Marriage has been evolving since its inception. Since it practically originated before Christ, it’s not his party to plan. Or anyone else who’s not getting married. If you’re not homosexual, you didn’t lose or gain anything on 6/26. Now you can officially stop acting like you did.

While I’m happy American homosexuals no longer have to feel like second class citizens in their own country, this all feels 2000-and-late to me, so I have a hard time digesting the celebratory Kool-Aid. A rainbow-colored white house… Seriously?