“I had to detach myself to find myself.”
— RAM (@RAMrants) August 15, 2014
The quote, above, is now likened to the title of this post and something I originally stumbled upon on twitter. I saw it and was immediately reminded of personal experiences from the beginning of this year. That’s why I had to share it. It beams significance to me. The truth is, I’m not the same person I was a while back. I’ve matured from the party animal I was letting peer pressure form me into and have traded those acquaintances for strong friendships with dignitaries and honest types – the people I long to be more like.
There’s truth in the Jim Rohn quote, “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” Towards the start of 2014 I was predominately associating with a bunch of party-addicted 20-somethings with horrible social etiquette and no obtainable ambition. Being that I’m insanely motivated, polite, and goal-oriented, the friendships with these types just weren’t working out. To be honest, I’m not even sure they were valid friendships. I had to distance myself from the empty variety to embrace one of more substance. The result was a necessary detachment.
In lieu of letting go of what I didn’t want, I’ve improved friendships with the people who deserved more from me and have formed new, strong, close bonds with a variety of types that inspire, motivate and celebrate my impending aspirations. The result is that I’ve come to know the beauty of responsibility and pure fraternity. I’m a happier person and frequently told so. A wake up call may be required for your own bigger picture to be revealed or you may just be strongly craving change. Regardless, it’s important to withdrawal for the purpose of self observation. Self-improvement should be an essential never ending duty.
You never have to be stuck anywhere or with anyone. But you, yourself, have to be the driving force in your pursuance of a better life. Don’t ever forget that.