I recently returned to Facebook, but that wasn’t the only avenue of social media I had departed with over time. The disposable photo/video sharing app, Snapchat, was another outlet I found myself wrestling to keep. Unlike my issues with Facebook, it wasn’t publicly paraded societal ignorance that kept me from wanting to use the popular mobile app. I love receiving Snapchat posts from family and friends that live out of town or from people I don’t get to see very often. That wasn’t what bothered me. It was the fact that my local friends kept sending me Snaps of themselves at parties or events they failed to invite me to and it hurt.

I pride myself on not being the jealous type, but when I was home alone on a Friday night receiving numerous Snaps from friends who felt the need to share their social happenings with me but simultaneously without me actually present, I’d found myself feeling left out and exasperated. I’m open minded enough to realize that I’m not going to be invited to every party or event, but I was receiving so many social-related Snapchat posts from gatherings I hadn’t been invited to that it started feeling personal. I even found myself doing the same thing to other people.

That’s the thing about social media. It can encourage a lot of emotions you never intended to feel by its use. Comparison, disenchantment, jealousy, spitefulness and loneliness are just a few of the feelings social media can inspire within a person. As Slutever.com and Vogue magazine contributor Karley Sciortino pointed out, it can even ruin your love life. I eventually deleted the Snapchat app from my phone but felt slight self-defeat by the invocation of my own emotions. That is, until I talked with some friends who admitted that Snapchat made them feel the same way.

Knowing I wasn’t alone made me feel a lot better about my insecurities and inspired me to return to Snapchat under stricter conditions. I now only maintain Snapchat friendships with my long distance mates or close confidants. This not only keeps me from receiving a bunch of posts I don’t care about seeing, but also keeps me from comparing my daily happenings to people in my life who are not considerate enough to invite me to join in on the fun when possible. My dealings with Snapchat have honestly enlightened me to the importance of being a better friend and recognizing the difference between friends and acquaintances.